How to Listen So People Will Talk Build Stronger Communication and Deeper Connections by Becky Harling
Are you often distracted by social media when you should be listening? Do you sometimes look shocked when your child tries to tell you something important? Is it hard for you to handle conflict?
Then you need this book! As Maya Angelou said, 'The most called-upon prerequisite of a friend is an accessible ear'. Becky Harling has lots of excellent advice from a Christian perspective to help you improve your listening skills. She also fills the book with useful anecdotes, prayers and exercises.
Harling writes about the importance of reflective listening. This will help you to find hidden ulterior motives, such as jealousy or insecurity. She suggests asking yourself about your feelings and what you were looking for. This is especially useful if you are inclined to offer unsolicited advice. This is very easy to do!
I found the chapter on conflict the most helpful. Her advice includes finding a point of agreement, letting someone vent and asking for clarification. Sometimes, you have to deal with toxic people, however, and she suggests ways to do this. Unfortunately, I am not sure if this book is going to help readers who have to try to cope with deliberately obstructive people, and that is probably it's only flaw.
I received this free ebook through Bethany House in exchange for an honest review.